This phrase, shared by one of my clients, has become a powerful reminder in my own life. It came into focus especially after the passing of my father, when my husband and I became caregivers for my mother.

She is still independent and lives on her own, but we help by driving her to appointments and errands since she no longer drives. One of the things she enjoys most is attending church. While we have arranged rides for her most weeks, I sometimes feel guilty that I am not the one taking her.

That’s when my client’s words echo back: “Don’t start what you cannot continue.”

This is not the same as “Don’t start what you cannot finish.” The latter refers to projects or goals with a clear beginning and end. But “Don’t start what you cannot continue” applies to ongoing commitments—those that affect others if we don’t consistently follow through.

Think about it: serving on committees, volunteering for recurring responsibilities, or accepting long-term projects. These aren’t one-and-done tasks. They require consistent energy, reliability, and trust.

Questions to Ask Before You Commit

1. Resources – Do I have the time and energy?
Look honestly at your calendar. Is there room for this new obligation, or would something else have to be set aside? Overcommitment serves no one well.

2. Reason – Why am I saying yes?
Am I genuinely interested in this role, or am I agreeing out of guilt or obligation? Brené Brown wisely says, “Choose discomfort over resentment.” Saying “no” may feel uncomfortable in the moment, but it prevents long-term frustration and bitterness.

3. Trust – Can others count on me?
When you commit, you’re creating an expectation that others can rely on you. Be clear about your boundaries upfront. If you can only help occasionally, say so. But once you set those boundaries, don’t waver—otherwise people will continue asking for more.

4. Seasons – Is it time to step away?
Life changes, seasons shift, and sometimes it’s appropriate to hand an opportunity to someone else. Be honest when it’s time to transition out.

Final Thought

Time is more precious than gold. Every “yes” we give takes time away from something else. Make sure your commitments align with your values, your energy, and your season of life.

Before you take on something new, pause and ask: Is this something I can truly continue?